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  Is there anyone out there who married a non jW...?how did it turn out for ?Are u happy?

  by Chichi89 in

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  please be honest....did love conquer it all?.

  how did u make it work?.

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  A friend of mine married twice to non-JWs. The first one left her for a man and the second one beat her nearly to death and now she's a cripple. That being said, it wasn't because they weren't JWs. It was because the first one was obviously gay and the second one was just a jerk.

  The way I see mixed marriages is, and I used to explain this to my non-JW mum years ago when I was single is, that if something is such a huge part of your life then the person who's gonna be the most important one in your life should share in the huge part. Otherwise, you and he are always off on different paths ie you're off to meetings and witnessing and he's doing his own thing, rather than you having the same goals. And face it, being a JW permeates every aspect of your life down to the way you think and feel. For instance, you live like armageddon's on the doorstep so you don't plan for the future or worry about paying bills a year down the track, whereas he feels you both should be saving for a house deposit or improving your earning potential, and if there are kids, they will get mixed messages when parents should have compatible goals.

  It's all about compatibility and life values.
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  New TATT Documentary coming to Brooklyn in March!

  by mind blown in

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  this is legit!!

  truth be told feature documentary exposing the jehovahs witnesses religion debuts in brooklyn, new york march 27th 2013. .

  if you do not serve jehovah, you will die.

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  OH wow tell me if it comes to Australia!!!
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  How many of you followed the WTS direction on education years ago and have been screwed by it?

  by Julia Orwell in

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  i'm really interested in this question because i've heard for years that if you forgo further education and go pioneering, when you have a family down the track you will get a good job because jehovah will provide for you because you pioneered.

  as long as i was a kool-aid drinker, even then, i thought, "how does pioneering pay your bills?

  surely education should come first.

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  I'm really interested in this question because I've heard for years that if you forgo further education and go pioneering, when you have a family down the track you will get a good job because Jehovah will provide for you because you pioneered. As long as I was a kool-aid drinker, even then, I thought, "How does pioneering pay your bills? Surely education should come first."

  I was sneered at a lot while I was at university, and when I got my degree and became a teacher and moved upstate to a town, I'm pretty sure most in the congregation regarded me as satanic because I had a degree AND worked in education.

  I left teaching when I got sick and took an office job. I worked it for 5 and a half years and lost it late last year due to cutbacks. I've now gone back to teaching, and I am ubelievably glad I have a profession to fall back on.

  My question to people on the forum is therefore: did you forgo your education because of the WT teachings years ago, and in what way has it affected your life? I hear of some who are in their 50's having to work at hard physical labour just to support their families or keep a roof over their heads because they were denied education. If you are one of these, I would like to hear from you!
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  I'm new, please come and meet me!

  by Julia Orwell in

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  long time lurker, first time poster.

  i'm really glad i can join your community because i've been in the wts for the last 14 years and now i'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!.

  about me: i started learning jw ways when i was in my teens.

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  Humungous Thanks! Thank you all for your warm welcome. I get a better welcome here than I did when I moved to a new congregation upstate a few years ago.

  To answer some of your questions:

  1. My husband is a convert who was inactive for 7 years and came back about 4 years ago. He has no JW family, and few JW friends. My non-JW family love him to bits and will support me in helping him.

  2. I read Steve Hassan's first book years ago, and I plan on reading it again!

  3. I'm going to have to bite my tongue because I full well know the human tendency to dig in when one's beliefs are attacked openly. Persuasion with parallel accounts and setting an example myself is the plan. Also, I will show him tons and tons of love, because he's a great guy and deserves it!!!

  4. "Matey" is not really an Australian term, so "mate" is more appropriate, mate. I use it all the time, mate.

  Thanks again all!

  Thanks
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  I'm new, please come and meet me!

  by Julia Orwell in

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  long time lurker, first time poster.

  i'm really glad i can join your community because i've been in the wts for the last 14 years and now i'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!.

  about me: i started learning jw ways when i was in my teens.

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  "So you've been a Lurker for many years, eh? So was I. "-

  More like a month! I've been interested in cults and totalitarian regimes, so once I joined the dots to the WT it didn't take me long to wake up.

  I tell my husband stories about the people in North Korea and the USSR and the FLDS church who escaped, so without dissing the Blotch-Tower I can facilitate his understanding and hopefully he'll join the dots himself.

  He's taken a recent interest in history too, which is always an eye-opener once you start looking at it without the WT goggles. That's one of the things that got me thinking about TTATT actually: I love history and lately have had time to study it more. Knowledge is power.
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  I'm new, please come and meet me!

  by Julia Orwell in

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  long time lurker, first time poster.

  i'm really glad i can join your community because i've been in the wts for the last 14 years and now i'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!.

  about me: i started learning jw ways when i was in my teens.

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  Turn up the heat on his love life and he will follow you everywhere.________Roberta804

  Ha ha good tip! Thank goodness he's a recent convert, so he knows how to think :)
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  Jehovah’s Witnesses and psychiatric diagnoses?

  by Marvin Shilmer in

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  jehovahs witnesses and psychiatric diagnoses?.

  today i added a new article to my blog sharing information from a 1983 study published in the journal for the scientific study of religion addressing religious affiliation and psychiatric diagnoses.

  this article pulls information from an excellent academic study that is often misunderstood and therefore underutilized for its value.

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  Yep I've been in and out of the psychiatrist's office for years. More on that later - when I've had a chance to read all your information and map it onto my own experience as a JW. Incidentally, since throwing off WT mental shackles I'm on half the meds I was before.
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  I'm new, please come and meet me!

  by Julia Orwell in

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  long time lurker, first time poster.

  i'm really glad i can join your community because i've been in the wts for the last 14 years and now i'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!.

  about me: i started learning jw ways when i was in my teens.

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  Gold Coast :)

  Where abouts in Sydney? I was born there.
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  14 months after printing the "Steve and Selma" article, guess what the Society's latest Awake is about...

  by cedars in

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  you guessed it.... .

  http://www.jw.org/download/?fileformat=pdf&issue=201304&output=html&pub=g&langwritten=e&option=trgchlzrqvnyvrxf&txtcmslang=e.

  cedars.

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  One of my best friends was urged to stay with her abusive husband and be more submissive and not provoke him by her elders and now she's a cripple with two teenage boys, drugged out on painkillers to the hilt and in and out of hospital all the time. She left him a year ago, but the damage he did to her has destroyed her life.

  Thanks, Watchtower!
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  I'm new, please come and meet me!

  by Julia Orwell in

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  long time lurker, first time poster.

  i'm really glad i can join your community because i've been in the wts for the last 14 years and now i'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!.

  about me: i started learning jw ways when i was in my teens.

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  Julia Orwell

  Hi there,

  Long time lurker, first time poster. I'm really glad I can join your community because I've been in the WTS for the last 14 years and now I'm on my way out and it's great to meet like-minded people!

  About me: I started learning JW ways when I was in my teens. I came from an atheist family, and was baptised a JW at 19. I went to university and got received my education degree when I was 23. I've always been an exemplary sister used as an example to the young born-ins because I had 'worldly' parents.

  I've been through hell, I've suffered depression, I've been tempted, yet I've always tried to do the WT thing, except for getting educated of course. Years of cognitive dissonance has tired me out, and when I lost my permanent job in Nov last year, for the first time pretty much since getting baptised 13 years ago I've had time to think. And boy, what I discovered was amazing, and you know the rest, and now I am here with you all! I feel I know some of you already.

  Right now I'm 'fading' and thinking of joining the nice Presbyterian church up the road. I love Jesus and my independent reading of the Bible has truly shown me how reprehensible the WTS is in putting themselves in His place!

  The biggest challenge, the reason I don't just walk and leave 13+ years of friends behind (none of my family are JWs thank goodness, and yet they are the most Christian people in the world) is that my husband is still a believer. I love him to bits and want nothing to come between us, so while he knows my doubts and respects my opinions, he is still a believer. I'd walk but for him, and by going to the meetings with him it makes him happy and I can point out the BS that comes from the platform.

  Anyway, I'm looking forward to being a member of your community. I've always had a brain, but for the last few years I've allowed it to atrophy 'for the truth' and I was such a martyr. No more. I'm awake, and looking forward to being in the light with new friends.

  Julia, Australia